I know this might sound contradictory, as most of what I’m writing on here could be classed as ‘advice’. But just bear with me for a moment…
When someone offers you advice for anything in life, as well meaning and helpful as they intend to be, the truth is we can only every offer advice from our own experiences and perspectives.
Each of us views and experiences the world completely differently. We each have our own set of lenses, our own past experiences, different upbringings, different ways of thinking and feeling things. No one else in the world is you!
Listen to your intuition
So I guess what I’m actually saying is be selective about the advice and information you take on board. Don’t just blindly follow advice because you trust and love the person it is coming from.
It can be easy to think your loved ones or an expert you respect knows best. But do they know whats best for YOU?
However close someone is to you, they can only give advice from their own experiences, emotions, thoughts, and feelings. By all means listen to what they have to say. But then spend time absorbing the information, looking at each of its pieces, and see how it resonates with you.
Use your intuition and your gut instincts. Decided what feels right to you and discard anything else that doesn’t resonate.
Or discard it all! You are the only person who can make your decisions.
Believe in yourself!
Trust yourself. Trust your instincts. And even if you make the wrong decision, you made the best decision for you at that time, with the information that you had. That’s the best you can ever do, and all you can ever ask of yourself.
Even if it ends up being the wrong decision, or a mistake. That is how you learn, that is how we all grow and expand as people.
The more you trust yourself and your intuition the stronger it gets, and the easier it will be for you to know what is the right thing to do, the right decision for you, in the future.
If you can be more mindful of everyone else’s noise, opinions, advice etc. Things that we all encounter on a daily basis. The more you can be selective in what you absorb. Whether that’s via social media, or the people you see every day. You don’t have to accept anyone’s word as gospel. You have to discern things for yourself, how a persons words sit with you and make you feel.
The more often you practice this on a day-to-day basis, the easier it becomes to let go of what doesn’t feel right or doesn’t resonate with you. Yes, everyone is entitled to their own thoughts and opinions. But you do not need to keep them as your own.
In a world of information overload, and a constant stream of noise, use your mindfulness techniques and your gut instincts to filter and be selective about what you want to consume and act upon. For me this give a whole lot more space and breathing room to grow and be my own person. It also helps quieten your mind and let you focus on whats important. Or just focus in general. It takes away the distractions. I can listen to my own thoughts on a situation or decision and not have them drowned out.
And who doesn’t want a little more peace and quiet and thinking space?
Images from a sunny day at Sandsend